Why marriage is unnecessary?

Why is marriage unnecessary?

Should a woman live the same man for the rest of her life? or vice versa? Is it really necessary a formal union for garnishing a natural union? Marriage is a social phenomenon that has changed according time, countries and religions adapting itself to each one of them. But it’s a phenomenon that we can only find in humans. So, is marriage really necessary? 

Let´s start from the beginning: When did this ritual start? Of course, many of the social customs of humans have their beginning in the early stages of the evolution of human society like concepts of family, religion, etc. Marriage was initially a way to ensure the reproduction and the continuation of the linage with the same couple, but with the creation of hierarchical positions, marriage took more importance to establish alliances, share territories and gain power. With the arrival of religions marriage was formalized as much as possible because it was now obligatory and permanent. The concept of one woman for each man was imposed and polygamy started to be banned in some religions and later in modern societies because it is considered more "civilized" than polygamy. We should not generalize because there are some cultures and religions (Islam) that support polygamy.

Today, with old concepts disappearing, marriage is in conflict regarding opinions and reevaluations. Undoubtedly, in the past maybe it was a good way to obtain power, money, territories, influence, etc. But today we can say marriage takes off more than it gives. Marriage has always benefitted the upper groups of the society (kings, noble men) but not the lower ones. Today with the equality of gender, race and social position the public opinion has more importance. Mainly gender equity because of the sexual revolution of women in the second half of the twentieth century, marriage consequently has lost its mainstay: the female submission.

Today women want to take control of their lives and have independence, they are interested in studies, getting a job and participate in political life for the defense of their rights. The divorce is probing that marriage is more like a formal union because a lot of people can escape now from something that was considerate perpetual. And the new concepts of relationships have arisen like free union.

Conclusion:

Marriage is a ritual, and it is not bad in that way but the meaning is very hard to follow by men and women because marriage is "lifelong" and if there is something that scares and confuses people is the concept of something bigger than their perception of time. Its not an attack for married people, but in the future we might see a more liberal perception of the union between men and women (even men between men and women between women) and its probably that marriage will go to the oblivion like other human traditions.

Reflection:

This essay was difficult because I needed to look for the correct and more neutral points of view, I tried to convince people of something but without attacking their own beliefs. The better way for do this is looking for argues in the history and try to create a future scenery in which your concept is probably or relentless. It was hard also because I felt not very sure of my argues. I confused myself with my own opinion.